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Walk the Walk #fashion #charity #dtwl

I’ll be walking the runway tomorrow for Dare to Wear Love. If you want to know more about my involvement, you can read about it here.

Normally, for such a swanky event, I would need to find an outfit to wear. Since I’m part of the fashion show, however, I’m fortunate to have something custom made for me!

The amazing Farley Chatto designed my dress, and I had the pleasure of trying it on earlier this week.

I don’t want to give anything away, but it’s fabulous. Made from six yards of African fabric in colours I would never choose for myself, it’s a complete departure from my all-black wardrobe. Farley calls it “naughty goodness” as he juxtapositions African fabric with Italian lamb leather! My dress is the one in the middle. The other two are also being worn by winners of the Dare to Wear Love Challenge.

I’m having my hair attended to by one of two masters in the craft—Brian Phillips of World Salon and John Taccone of Navigate Salon. MAC Cosmetics will take care of my make-up. Even my jewellery will be looked after by Rita Tesolin.

The only thing I had to get were shoes. Farley told me early on to get a pair of heels, not the chunky heels I’m used to wearing, but the tall, skinny heels. The higher the heel, the better it would show off my legs and the dress, which sits just above my knees.

And I definitely wanted to do that, but … Yikes!

Recently, I wore my highest, skinniest heels for the Toronto International Porn Festival. They are two inches. I was able to walk in them, albeit not for long stretches at a time. 

You’re talking about a girl who lives in sneakers, after all! These are my beat-up runners on the car’s dashboard. Heh.

“Walk the walk” is almost always said in combination with “talk the talk.” It’s an alternative to old sayings such as “Talk is cheap,” or “Actions speak louder than words.” It’s quite fitting as the title of this post.

After weeks of raising money for the event and “talking” about it on social media, I finally have to walk it. Less than a minute’s worth of stepping one foot in front of the other shouldn’t be too difficult, right?

Plus I’ve done it once before.

The difference last time was I walked in boots with wide heels. My floor-length skirt covered my boots, so it didn’t matter what I wore on my feet, really.

This time …

Three inches! Count them—One, Two, Threeeee inches!

I practised walking up and down my driveway after watching some “How to walk in high heels” videos. Pretty sad, right?

Anyway, I managed to scuff up the soles a bit for better grip, and I even surprised myself with how steadily I walked. The test will be tomorrow evening when I take to the runway.

Just when I was feeling more confident, a friend sent me this video.

It actually did make me feel better. I mean … there is no way I’m going to be this bad, and these are professional models!

Join me if you can tomorrow night. It’s fashion for fun, hope, and a great cause. There are limited tickets available as the event is close to being sold out.

An incredible amount of love and work goes into producing the Dare to Wear Love event, and I want to thank everyone who has supported me with a donation or encouraged me on social media.

Wish me luck and that I stay upright!

eden 

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Feminist Porn Awards 2015 – Photo Slideshow #FPA2015

What a night it was for the 10th Annual Feminist Porn Awards Friday, April 17th. It was a gorgeous, sunny evening outside, and inside the Capitol Theatre, the mood was the same.

I recently wrote about the event here if you want to learn more about my involvement and Good for Her, the creator of the show. As always, sexual diversity, acceptance, and inclusiveness made for a beautiful time—not to mention great, sexy films!

Congratulations to all the winners and hope you enjoy the slideshow.

eden xox

Approx. 20 pictures

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Related slideshows from previous years:

2014 | 2013 | 2012 | 2011

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On judging feminist p*rn and what feminism means to me

As I have done the previous four years, I served on a panel of judges for the upcoming Feminist Porn Awards (FPA) sponsored by Good For Her, the premiere erotic boutique in Toronto. As a judge, I watched a lot of porn in the past few weeks. A LOT of porn.

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I’ve blogged about the FPA in the past, and what the spirit of the show means. Read my articles if you’re interested to know my history with it.

This year marks the ten-year anniversary of the awards, and my last year as a judge for the show. As much as I have enjoyed doing it, I’m passing the baton due to other commitments.

The FPA is an inclusive forum for filmmakers—gay, straight, transgender, and those who identify themselves differently. For me, the highest marks went to the films that met all or most of the following criteria:

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1) Inclusiveness: The work expands sexual representation on film and presents a vision that sets it apart from mainstream pornography.

2) Good quality filmmaking: If you shot the film using your phone, chances are you won’t win points with me. I like good quality filmmaking, attention to detail, lighting, and sound.

3) Creativity: Just as I don’t enjoy reading about stereotypes, I don’t enjoy watching sexual stereotypes. Show me something I haven’t seen before.

4) Arousal factor: Did the film arouse me? Even if the film does not depict something I would necessarily like, I need to see that the actors are genuinely enjoying themselves.

5) Story: Story crafting is not always necessary, but if the film strives to tell one, then please don’t include a thinly-veiled “Pizza delivery boy scene.” It’s unnecessary if it adds nothing.

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The films I saw are unlikely to hit mainstream theatres. And over the years, it has surprised some people that I’m involved with movies in this genre.

One question that has continued to pop up, especially in light of Fifty Shades of Grey, (which I have neither read nor watched the movie) is:

You support feminist porn, but what does it say about a woman if she enjoys fantasies where men dominate women? Isn’t this against feminism?

Though I’ve answered this question privately, I’ve never formally answered it, so I will do so now.

Let me talk about feminism first, as my definition of it may not be the same as yours. I believe in the rights of people, which means both women’s rights AND men’s rights. One should not trump the other based on sex.

My idea of feminism is not that I should have everything that men have, but I should not be prohibited to pursue what I want in life because I am a woman.

It does NOT mean that all things ‘male’ need to be open to me. Just as not all things ‘female’ should be open to men.

As an example, I have zero interest in joining exclusive men’s clubs where they drink whisky, smoke cigars, and whatever else men do behind closed doors out of the watchful eye of their wives and significant others. To women who feel they should be able to join these clubs, I say: Start your own damn club!

That is the freedom you have.

I am all for gender equality, but I believe there is value in men bonding with men only. And the same is true for women being with women only. Men and women are inherently different. We don’t always find the same things appealing, and nowhere is this more evident than when we socialize. We behave differently when members of the opposite sex are around. This may not be the case if the men and women know each other very well, but otherwise, most of us have been socialized to behave in a certain way depending on the company we keep.

At times, I fear the fight to close the gender gap has verged on the ridiculous, which in turn, has muddied more legitimate pursuits. An issue such as equal pay for equal work should be a no-brainer, and yet, women with the same job and same qualifications as men are still, on the whole, paid less than men. This is worth fighting for, not trying to get into private men’s clubs.

But hey, that’s just how I feel.

Sorry, I went off on a tangent.

Back to the question of women who fantasize about being dominated by men. Is this against feminism?

No.

It’s that simple.

I refuse to police anyone’s desires or fantasies. I am sure there are many women with fantasies of being dominated by men, myself included. It does not make me weak, passive, or against feminism.

Men dominating women on film and in literature are not anti-feminist, but a reason it may be perceived as such is because consent is not always clear.

CONSENT.

That is a key factor in fantasy play, and it must be explicit.

If all we ever see or read is men dominating women, then some people may think this type of power exchange is what all women want. That is not the case. Conversely, the stereotype of the woman who only wants soft, gentle, romantic sex in her porn and books is also untrue.

Regardless of who is on top, both men and women should have the freedom to explore their fantasies, sans judgment, especially since the psychology of eroticism is impossible to define.

What I find erotic is not within my control, so why do I need to fit my fantasy into a box that is socially acceptable?

I don’t.

My erotic imagination and life should not have to conform to my real life, which is built around a specific set of social and moral values.

The two lives never have to meet.

As human beings, we need to stop judging others for their sexual preferences and realize that the mind is both complex and mysterious. It’s not our sexual fantasies that inform our decisions and how we behave in the real world.

So … in a nutshell, if you’re a woman who wants a man to dominate you in your fantasies, go for it if it turns you on. It does not make you a bad person nor does it make you anti-feminist.

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Come join me at the events leading up to the FPA Gala this Friday. Tickets are still available at Good For Her or online at: The 10th Anniversary Feminist Porn Awards! – Feminist Porn Awards. If you’re able to make it, come and say “hi.” I’d love to meet you. 😉

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Wednesday April 15th Erika Lust and XConfessions
The Royal Cinema 608 College St., Toronto

Thursday April 16th Public. Provocative. Porn
Bloor Hot Docs Cinema 506 Bloor St W, Toronto

Friday April 17th Feminist Porn Awards Gala
Capitol Event Theatre 2492 Yonge St., Toronto

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Feminist Porn Awards 2014 – Photo Slideshow #FPA2014

What a night it was for the 9th Annual Feminist Porn Awards last Friday, April 4th. Outside it was pouring rain, but inside the Castlefield Event Theatre (formerly the Capitol Theatre), hot bodies pressed up against one another.

I was part of a small jury to judge the submissions, and had been diligently watching porn for the past couple of months. Tough job, but someone had to do it. 😉

You can find out more about my involvement here.

I had a wonderful time with friends in support of GOOD FOR HER, creator of the event.

Thanks to everyone who embraces sexual diversity and inclusiveness. Your acceptance made for a beautiful evening.

Congratulations to all the winners!

Hope you enjoy the slideshow.

eden

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Approx. 20 photos by John B.

Photos from KristyBoyce.com used with permission (individually credited).

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Related posts:

Slideshow of 2013 Feminist Porn GALA
Slideshow of 2012 Feminist Porn GALA
Slideshow of 2011 Feminist Porn GALA

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Feminist Porn Awards 2013 – Photo Slideshow

The 8th Annual Feminist Porn Awards was a wonderful event, as usual. Hot bodies packed the Capitol Event Theatre on April 5th, and Toronto North will never be the same!

You can find out more about my involvement with the awards here.

I had a wonderful time with friends and supporting  GOOD FOR HER who sponsored the event.

Thanks to all the people who continue to embrace sexual diversity and inclusiveness. Your energy made for an unforgettable evening.

Congratulations to all the winners!

eden

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Approx. 20 photos courtesy of John B, Olga Barsky, and various photographers

Related posts:
Slideshow of 2012 Feminist Porn GALA
Slideshow of 2011 Feminist Porn GALA

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An Awards Show Like No Other @fempornawards #fpa2013

On April 5th, I’ll be attending the 8th Annual Feminist Porn Awards.

Good For Her is Toronto’s premiere erotic store and sponsors the Feminist Porn Awards.

It’s the third year in a row I’ve been invited to judge a wide selection of films and websites for the show. Many people have asked me: “Is feminist porn different from traditional porn?”

The answer is “YES.”

Here’s how Good for Her answers the question.

Nominees must meet at least 2 of the following criteria:

1) Women and/or traditionally marginalized people were involved in the direction, production and/or conception of the work.

2) The work depicts genuine pleasure, agency and desire for all performers, especially women and traditionally marginalized people.

3) The work expands the boundaries of sexual representation on film, challenges stereotypes and presents a vision that sets the content apart from most mainstream pornography.  This may include depicting a diversity of desires, types of people, bodies, sexual practices, and/or an anti-racist or anti-oppression framework throughout the production.

And of course it must be hot! Visit Good for Her to learn more.

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You can find out more about the 8th Annual Feminist Porn Awards, where I’ll also be presenting an award.

Tickets are still available online. They’re going fast, so grab them now! This year, gala night has a NEW venue – the Capitol Event Theatre.

Look forward to seeing you there!

eden

Related posts:

Slideshow of 2012 Feminist Porn GALA

Slideshow of 2011 Feminist Porn GALA

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Feminist Porn Awards 2012 – Photo Slideshow

The 7th Annual Feminist Porn Awards are over, and it was ridiculously fun. Held at Berkeley Church in downtown Toronto, the two floors were packed with hot bodies all night long!

To find out about my involvement with the awards, read my post here.

I met some some wonderfully creative people and had the pleasure of presenting awards for Honored Websites. To get a list of all the winners and find out more, visit GOOD FOR HERthe premiere erotic boutique in Toronto that sponsored the event.

Enjoy the slideshow, and stay sexy,
eden

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 Approx. 25 pictures courtesy of John B

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Feminist Porn Awards 2012

It’s that time of year again. No, I don’t mean tax time … I’m talking porn time.

Good For Her is Toronto's premiere store for women and their admirers who want high quality sex toys, books, DVDs, workshops, sensual art, and much more.

Over the past month, I’ve holed myself up to watch porn—lots and lots of porn as part of a  jury for the Feminist Porn Awards. This is my second year doing it; you can read about my experience from last year here.

It’s been fun, but it isn’t easy watching porn back to back, or front to back, or side to side, or upside down for that matter—so many positions to keep track of. 😉 Okay, I jest, but it’s hard work that has some perks.

I reviewed approximately thirty movies and twenty websites, rating them on their level of erotic appeal and whether I saw anything groundbreaking or exceptional. The nominees this year were excellent and reconfirmed for me there are as many sexual preferences as there are people.

Vive la différence, I say.

You can find out more about the 7th Annual Feminist Porn Awards, where I’ll be presenting an award.

The festivities begin April 18th, and the Awards Gala is April 20th. Get your tickets now and hope to see you there!

eden

Related post:
Slideshow of event which took place April 20, 2012 found here.

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Feminist Porn Awards 2011 – Photo Slideshow

The 6th Annual Feminist Porn Awards are over, and it was a blast! The winners were finally announced on April 15th. If you want to know more about my involvement, read my blog post.

My book, Fall into Winter, was part of a silent auction with award-winning author, Tristan Taormino’s DVD, Expert Guide to Female Orgasms and other great items. It was a fantastic evening filled with love, laughs, and HOT porn!

Along with filmmaker, Cheryl Dunye, I presented awards for Honoured Websites.

To get a list of all the winners and find out more, visit GOOD FOR HER —the premiere erotic boutique in Toronto.

Enjoy the photos, and stay sexy,

Eden

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Approximately 50 photos courtesy of John B.

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Feminist Porn Awards

If you’ve been keeping up with my monthly updates, you’ll know I was on a jury for the Sixth Annual Feminist Porn Awards. The event is sponsored by Good for Her, one of the stores selling my book.

In the month of March, I watched more porn than I have in my entire life. I like porn—on occasion—in sound bites. This, however, was more than a bite. It was a gigantic chomp for about three weeks straight.  I watched and reviewed close to thirty films and websites, rating them on things such as level of erotic appeal and whether I saw anything groundbreaking or exceptional.

I was honored to be included as a judge, but I must say—it was work—a lot of work. I wanted to make sure I gave each film the attention it deserved, and to do that, I had to pay attention. It’s not unlike reading a book as a beta reader. You need to look for certain things: holes in the plot; continuity issues; unrealistic characters. With porn, the added element was “Does this film turn me on sexually?” If it did, I usually forgave a lot of the weaker elements.

As a writer of erotica, I don’t seek out porn to inspire me,  but I have used it for research—usually when I’m trying to figure out if a sex scene I’ve written is even anatomically possible. In the process, I’ve sometimes come across a scene that sparks an idea for a story, or just sparks something in me…either way, it arouses my psyche which leads to my imagination doing some acrobatics of sorts, and then words fall onto a page. It doesn’t always happen, but it’s really great when it does.

The Feminist Porn Festival continues tonight with a public screening and a Q&A session. Tickets are still on sale for tomorrow’s awards ceremony. I saw some excellent entries (no pun intended), so do try and attend if you can. It’s certainly a fun and different way to spend your Friday night!

I’ll be presenting an award and look forward to seeing you there.

I also got interviewed  by Toronto Sun columnist, Mike Strobel about my involvement with the festival and my views on the changing face of “Toronto the Good.”

Read his article here, which I’ll also repost on my Interviews page.

Stay sexy,

Eden

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