Cigarettes After Sex

I’ve never been a smoker.

The one and only time I put a cigarette between my lips was more than forty years ago. My best friend’s father smoked, so we stole one of his cigarettes and stood over the kitchen sink to try it. I’m not sure why we decided to do it there.

In case we vomited?

Possibly.

To drop the ashes down the drain?

Well … we never got that far.

AfterΒ one long, enthusiastic inhale, I knew smoking was not for me.

The burning in my throat.

The coughing.

The tears.

YUCK! Smoking never tempted me again.

But though cigarettes are no longer en vogue, I do love the visual metaphor of two people smoking in bed. It’s a familiar image we’ve seen represented in film. It speaks to lovemaking, romance, and eroticism. The cigarette seduces without subjecting the viewer to its harmful effects, which brings me to this week’s music choice.

Got the music in you baby
Tell me why
Got the music in you baby
Tell me why
You’ve been locked in here forever and you just can’t say goodbye

Cigarettes After Sex is a four-person band out of Brooklyn. With their minimalist black-and-white artwork, slow-paced melodies, and tender vocals, their songs make me want to crawl into bed and drift into a hazy daydream.

Your lips
My lips
Apocalypse
Your lips
My lips
Apocalypse

I chose Cigarettes After Sex’s song, “Apocalypse” for its sweet and sentimental lyrics. In Stranger at Sunset, protagonist Kate Hampton is missing someone she first met in Jamaica. As circumstances dictate their fate, there is much left unsaid between them. This sense of absence follows her to A Fragile Truce, the book I’m writing now.

Go and sneak us through the rivers flood is rising up on your knees
Oh please
Come out and haunt me
I know you want me
Come out and haunt me

To portray Kate’s feelings, I thought of choosing oldies like “Miss You” by the Rolling Stones or “Missing You” by John Waite. I love both these songs because they express the sentiment of missing someone, and yet, the lyrics were too familiar. They had lost their emotional impact for me.

Got the music in you baby
Tell me why
Got the music in you baby
Tell me why
You’ve been locked in here forever and you just can’t say goodbye
You’ve been locked in here forever and you just can’t say goodbye

The coda of “Apocalypse” captures the hardship of separation and loss beautifully, for as difficult as saying “goodbye” can be, not being able to say goodbye is … apocalyptic.

Oh
When you’re all alone
I will reach for you
When you’re feeling low
I will be there too

Wishing you a warm, inspired week. May none of us experience anything apocalyptic, unless it’s great sex of course. πŸ˜‰

~eden

27 thoughts on “Cigarettes After Sex

  1. I just started to listen to them. At first I couldn’t believe the name and it sort of turned me off. You’ve just captured why their music seduces me when you describe it as a “hazy daydream”.

    I’ve also seen people suggest watching their music on YouTube at 1.25x speed (in the settings).

    1. I was confused by the band name too. At first, I thought it was the name of the song. Seductive sound for sure, love their sound. I’ve never heard that about watching vids at 1.25x. What an odd thing, but I’ll have to try it next time. πŸ˜‰

  2. What a great, sexy song. I love the name of the band – I agree it sounds like a song title rather than a band name. Like all French people, I smoked for a couple of years as a teen. Health horrors aside, the ritual aspect is lovely, much like the ritual of having a cup of coffee or tea. But it was easy for me to quit and I choose clean living now haha.

    1. Ah, I did not know you are French, Letizia. I’m from Montreal originally. French is a great language to know in this country. I’m glad you don’t smoke anymore. Clean living is much better for your health. πŸ™‚ xo

        1. It is, but cold now too. Definitely colder than Toronto. My mom still lives there so we visit her every year and she comes here. It’s only a 4.5 hour train ride. πŸ˜‰

  3. I have never been a smoker, thank goodness. Both my parents smoked, like chimneys, so I’m lucky to have escaped that terrible modeling behavior.

    I was always a cautionary person, anyway. First Lady Nancy Reagan’s “Just Say NO!” slogan had come out around the time I was in fifth grade. I think the schools started teaching about the dangers of drugs, alcohol, and smoking at around the same time, so I was in a good learning position at the age of 10. All I needed was a picture of charred lungs to convince me smoking was not an option! πŸ™‚

    1. Hi Kate, I’m glad I never started. Many friends did smoke and quit, and some still smoke. And then there are the ones who quit and started again. Since I’ve never smoked, I can’t know how addictive a habit it can be. I give a lot of credit to those who can quit though. It cannot be easy.

  4. Reblogged this on Satanic Muses and commented:
    Unlike the author of this post, the three of us all smoke regularly. And we have all experienced Cigarettes After Sex. This post however is about a band of the same name which happens to be one of Cassie’s current favorites. Nice post and video; enjoy!

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