Gabe Berman was introduced to me by writer and dear friend, Rachel Thompson, whom I interviewed almost a year ago. It’s wonderful to stay connected with old friends, and meet new ones. Gabe is a lovely man I can relate to. He left the corporate world to write, and now his book Live Like a Fruit Fly has gained accolades from the likes of Deepak Chopra—high praise indeed.
Gabe is currently writing his sequel The Fruit Fly Strikes Back on his blog.
Please give a very warm welcome to author, Gabe Berman.
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Who is Gabe Berman?
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO LIVE LIKE A FRUIT FLY?
Fruit flies are born, begin attending to their fruit-fly agendas almost immediately, then succumb to old age before witnessing a single change of season. Likewise, we live and die in the virtual blink of an eye. Unfortunately, we often ignore our own mortality and simply coast through our days without ever checking out the bowl of fruit on the other side of the kitchen. The life we hoped for can wait for another day, we think. But another day often slips through our grasp, and we learn that we can’t wait another day . . . that if we are to live consciously, we must learn to live like a fruit fly, not tomorrow but at this very moment, the one we are experiencing now. We are responsible for creating our own destiny. Our gut, our instincts–the GPS we’re all born with–will never lead us astray if we trust it. Silver linings–more fruit to feast on–will always be within reach if only we’re willing to explore.
Live Like a Fruit Fly is a call to action. Through anecdotes, insightful musings, candid stories, and hopeful messages, it emphasizes the importance of following your passions as well as being grateful through Active Appreciation (the gentle but concentrated art of meditating on ‘thank you’ for everything that has happened, is happening, and is about to happen) with just enough quirkiness to stand apart from the crowd.
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Inside Gabe Berman’s Mind
What is your idea of perfect happiness? This precise moment is perfect happiness because it’s happening NOW and NOW is all we have (Sorry about the bullshit answer. As a spiritual/self-help writer, it’s what’s expected of me. But I assure you if I did what was expected of me, I’d still be at some miserable sales job, I wouldn’t have written LLAFF and we wouldn’t be talking right now. There are many examples of perfect happiness and one of them is when you decide to stop caring about the expectations of others and trade that in for following your gut without exception. And by the way, the NOW really is all we have so make the most of it).
What turns you on creatively? I love sitting down at Starbucks with a cup of coffee and my laptop. I love looking at the blank screen. I love that ounce of doubt in the back of my mind which asks, “I wonder if I’m going to find the right words?” I love when I remember to let go and allow the words to come to me. I love when the words come to me.
Which words or phrases do you most overuse? I’ve been accused of over-referencing Star Wars. But at least you’ll never hear me say, “Hey, did you catch American Idol last night?”
What quality do you most admire in a man? “Outside of a dog, a book is man’s best friend. Inside of a dog it’s too dark to read.” Groucho Marx (not sure why that just popped into my head)
What quality do you most admire in a woman? The reflex to love without conditions.
What is your greatest regret? I regret nothing. Even if I had a DeLorean outfitted with a flux capacitor, I wouldn’t go back to change a thing. The butterfly effect brought me to where I need to be.
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be? Although I don’t allow myself to waste too much time with worry, I’d remember more often to worry less.
What is your greatest fear? That I’ll lose my faith in miracles. But thankfully, I keep witnessing them.
Which living person do you most admire? Myself. Start following your gut and you’ll say the same (about yourself – but you can dig me too if you’d like).
What profession other than your own would you like to attempt? When I was stuck in corporate America, I’d fantasize about being a fireman/paramedic so i could rescue people. But I’d also pray to instantly switch places with the window washers on scaffolds just so I could be outside.
If you could choose what to come back as, what would it be? Someone enlightened. But maybe I’ll pull that off this time around.
What do you consider your greatest achievement? I read all seven Harry Potter books in three and a half weeks. And against all odds, Deepak Chopra endorsed my book which isn’t too shabby either.
What is the trait you most deplore in others? Greed.
What is your greatest extravagance? iTunes. Want to know why Apple’s stock is doing so well? Look at my music collection.
What is one thing you want to do before you die? Figure out how not to die.
What is your favorite music (genre/artist/album/song)? Hands down, Jeff Buckley’s Grace is the most beautiful album ever recorded. But if you ask me tomorrow I might say Kind of Blue by Miles Davis or Rhythm of the Saints by Paul Simon or Bruce’s Born to Run. You know what, lets just keep things simple and say The Beatles (and Sting, Dave Matthews, Billy Joel, Radiohead, Zero 7, Sigur Ros…).
What are some of your favorite curse words? How much fucking time do you have for my full list?
What is your motto? Live like a fruit fly.
Thank you Gabe for being such a wonderful guest and sharing your wise words.
I invite all readers to leave Gabe a comment or ask him a question.
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